Let life break you open. It’s the only answer.

You have two choices in life: lean into fear and HARDEN. OR lean into love and SOFTEN. 

It’s an ego killer to soften, but I promise you it’s the only solution.

Is life always fair? No. But that’s a bad question with a bad answer. A better question is: is life always worth it? YES. It fucking is. 

Recently I’ve had a resurfacing of one of my major childhood traumas. More like, reliving it exactly. Rough shit. Almost an out of body feeling. (I’m not physically injured or anything). 

I’m an adult now, but that shit can really take you back to your terrified, objectively alone 9 year old self. I felt totally unsafe, like gravity itself is a lie. 

What do I do now? What do I even do with this feeling? 

Thank GOODNESS I’ve recently very thoroughly examined disappointment because otherwise I would not have the framework to deal with this in a constructive, good-feeling way. 

The thing is, I am here for it. I am here for whatever consequence comes from love. I feel lucky to have connections that even allow me to feel grief, because that is another form of love. 

I am so so grateful to feel a depth of love and to have my loved ones still with me and I am my own solution. My very being is the solution. 

I am choosing to not resent any labor that love requires. 

Boundaries are important, yes, but once love is at a certain level, boundaries become mere tools of the ego. 

If there is anything hard that you’re going through in relation to another person, decide whether or not that person is worth it. 

If they are, then don’t resent the GIFT that it is to love. It is a gift! 

Decide to be happy to life and to love. You get to be here. 

And I’m so happy I get to be here with you. 

I’m curious…

What songs help you soften into compassion? 

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Want to get deeper into this with me? Listen to my podcast episode on the topic.

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Journaling Prompt of the day:

What was a difficult situation with a loved one that either hardened or softened you? How can you forgive the fear and lean even more into love? 

Song of the week: 

Process some emotions through music with me, click here.

How songs can effortlessly shift your emotions for the better

I want to share a song with you.

It’s one of best examples of an alchemical song that can shift things for the better for you (and with zero effort).

It has seeped into my soul and brought me a new level of permanent peace.

I will always be grateful to the members of the beautiful circle who gave their loving wisdom and energy to the song. I really feel like we figured some things out!

There are so many rules to life, so many answers in this song. The unfortunate thing is, whenever you desperately want an answer is usually exactly when you’re incapable of perceiving it.

It’s causation too, not just correlation. The thing about the energy of resignation or desperation is that they are underlined by negative assumptions.

ASSUMPTIONS. Sheesh! Poor universe trying to show us the light when we are so focused on where the light isn’t. 

“It isn’t here!”

Go somewhere else… 

“It isn’t here!”

I’ll save you some time, future me, it isn’t anywhere you’re looking for it!

The answers aren’t outside of you.

The thing you want, that feeling that you “don’t” have is actually inside of you. You better look for it in there. You have to find it in there first before you have any hope in seeing it reflected outside of you in the big, wide, world. 

Those of us who have done enough self-help work, whether it's journaling, reading, self-reflecting or whatever, have discovered that allowing is the only answer.

Life is so much more pleasant and seemingly luck-filled when we believe that our experience is worth having. When we’re not mad about it. 

That this exact moment totally unchanged, is absolutely something we are signed up for. We are here to LIVE. That is all.

To experience.

To exist.

We ARE grateful to be here. It’s whenever our minds trick us into thinking we’re not that we feel sad. 

Deep down, WE KNOW that everything is beautiful, including us. That’s why it hurts to think otherwise. Because it’s not true. 

Turn on your tap baby and let those miraculous moments - that you created by intending to see them - FLOW!!

Join myself and a special guest for a deep dive discussion into all of this and more, in this week’s new podcast episode.

The Signs Are Everywhere

Verse 1

The signs are everywhere 

Maybe I put them there 

So I’m always aware

So I’m always aware

Verse 2

I got enough figured out 

To allow to allow

I used to have my doubts 

They dissolved somehow

Bridge

There is only now

Chorus

Tap is open, overflowing

Always in the present moment 

Never thinking, only knowing, 

Feeling how the wind is blowing

Verse 3

There is nothing to do

But to enjoy the view

With my soul in full bloom 

With my soul in full bloom