You have two choices in life: lean into fear and HARDEN. OR lean into love and SOFTEN.
It’s an ego killer to soften, but I promise you it’s the only solution.
Is life always fair? No. But that’s a bad question with a bad answer. A better question is: is life always worth it? YES. It fucking is.
Recently I’ve had a resurfacing of one of my major childhood traumas. More like, reliving it exactly. Rough shit. Almost an out of body feeling. (I’m not physically injured or anything).
I’m an adult now, but that shit can really take you back to your terrified, objectively alone 9 year old self. I felt totally unsafe, like gravity itself is a lie.
What do I do now? What do I even do with this feeling?
Thank GOODNESS I’ve recently very thoroughly examined disappointment because otherwise I would not have the framework to deal with this in a constructive, good-feeling way.
The thing is, I am here for it. I am here for whatever consequence comes from love. I feel lucky to have connections that even allow me to feel grief, because that is another form of love.
I am so so grateful to feel a depth of love and to have my loved ones still with me and I am my own solution. My very being is the solution.
I am choosing to not resent any labor that love requires.
Boundaries are important, yes, but once love is at a certain level, boundaries become mere tools of the ego.
If there is anything hard that you’re going through in relation to another person, decide whether or not that person is worth it.
If they are, then don’t resent the GIFT that it is to love. It is a gift!
Decide to be happy to life and to love. You get to be here.
And I’m so happy I get to be here with you.
I’m curious…
What songs help you soften into compassion?
Want to get deeper into this with me? Listen to my podcast episode on the topic.
Journaling Prompt of the day:
What was a difficult situation with a loved one that either hardened or softened you? How can you forgive the fear and lean even more into love?
Song of the week:
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