Blooming through disappointment
Last week, a circle of women came together to hash out the topic of disappointment…and now I have a lot of things to say!
Not only did I learn so much from the shared wisdom of the women in the circle, but they also inspired me to new levels of my own understanding as well.
I hope you find the magic in them, because this is a tough topic.
The thing is, disappointment is really a form of grief.
It’s an under-appreciated form of trauma that I think we all have to a certain degree.
Often, our first disappointments were quite heavy and they involved our parents. It left us feeling unsafe, confused, and completely powerless.
Disappointment feels like a betrayal of the universe which results in feeling lost with a lot of self-doubt. It becomes more difficult to trust the unknown. Our higher self knows that it is in fact an invitation to lean into change.
So, what keeps us stuck in disappointment?
Hope. That silly bitch, hope.
Ok, ok, that was harsh. It’s not hope directly causing us pain and keeping us stuck - it’s our ATTACHMENT to the hope. It’s the fact that we don’t want to let go of it even though the story already ended and we are DISAPPOINTED.
When the cookie has crumbled, then you can’t … hope that it could be uncrumbled. (That’s not even a word, first of all.)
But there is no going back in time. If you feel like you need a time machine to feel peace, then you’re on the wrong path. A time machine is not the answer.
As always, the answer is within you, and denial is getting in the way.
Denial often can be a signal that lets us know that there is a grief that is not being honored. Being in denial means not accepting the current circumstances. That ain’t good. That DOES leave us powerless.
What’s the answer? Honor the grief. Let go of the attachment to hope.
Oprah Winfrey said, “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.”
When we finally are able to forgive, we give ourselves PEACE.
It’s only for us, but it benefits literally everyone.
In this week’s Podcast episode, I’m going deeper into…
What disappointment ACTUALLY is.
What the experience of disappointment can mean to us
The reasons we get stuck in disappointment
The answer! How to release yourself from the disappointing experiences you’ve had in the past.
Ready to explore the disappointment that’s residing within you?
Listen to my Disappointment Playlist on Spotify and grab your journal…
Prompts:
How has a disappointing experience changed you for the better?
What hope do you need to let go of? What beautiful thing can you fill with that space?
