My Blooming Soul ethos (which I also apply to my songwriting) begins with acceptance.
The thing is, you probably can’t get to where you want to go from where you are right now in just a day.
There will probably be many steps in between now and then. You WILL get there. But you must walk the path.
I like to call it climbing the emotional ladder. It’s gotta be done one step at a time. One of my favorite examples I like to give for this step is how anger is often an improvement from sadness. It has agency, it has power. But, you don’t want to stay there. Keep climbing!
In order to do that you have to meet yourself where you are - where you actually are. That means: Acceptance!
Don’t judge yourself for the emotions that you’re feeling.
They’re necessary to your path. Judging our emotions can really affect how we process them, or not. Or even if we SEE them in the first place. Lean into acceptance, lean into surrender. Going IN is the only way OUT.
My favorite Eckhart Tolle book is A New Earth and at the end of it, he explains the Three Modalities of Awakened Doing. They are:
1) Acceptance
2) Enjoyment
3) Enthusiasm.
“Performing an action in the state of acceptance means you are at peace while you do it. That peace is a subtle energy vibration which then flows into what you do. On the surface, acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it is active and creative because it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, that subtle energy vibration, is consciousness, and one of the ways in which it enters this world is through surrendered action, one aspect of which is acceptance.”
So even if you cannot enjoy what you are doing, truly accepting what you’re doing is a beautiful act of peace and self-love.
I go deeper into this on my new podcast episode this week. Come and join the conversation
Blooming Soul Practice
I’d like to invite you to reflect on
What emotions you have a hard time accepting, and therefore a hard time moving through
What song can support you in accepting or going INTO that emotion? It might even be positive emotions, maybe you’re resistant to feeling proud of yourself or believing you deserve love (Lizzo is good for that, Diana Ross- not so much). Let music help you soften your resistance.
Share your experience with me - tag me on Instagram (@selfhelpsongwriter) with the song & the emotion!
